Tuesday, January 24, 2012

All Alone in the Moonlight


What do you with the pictures, gifts, and other knickknacks from a previous relationship? If it was a life you had, how do you erase all of it because it didn't work out? After all, how we change and progress is affected by the life we lived and are living. Do all the sentiments get thrown out and scattered so that we don't have to think about it anymore? What do you do? Do you go to the same restaurants, do the same activities and have the same discussions with the new person? What if those things were some of your favorite things that you shared and now feel some kind of way about bringing in someone new. Is it disrespecting your ex-relationship and what you had with that person? What do friends and family think when now there is a different person on your side? Are folks uncomfortable because they had forged a friendship with the previous person? Will they be opened to the new person in your life or will they feel apprehensive?

Artifacts leave behind what happened, that way we can learn from what life was like as we put the pieces together, and perhaps avoid making the same mistakes.

Or do you scratch all the awkwardness of it all and stand alone?

Sunday, January 15, 2012

Drink in the Moments!


It can always be worse! Life gives us lemons and most of us try our best to make lemonade, but others sulk in the misery of the bitter taste. If I stop a moment and let life's to do's and got to's sink in I would drown. Although sometimes I feel I am just at the surface with my head above water, at the very least I can swim! Problems will come and go. If it's not one thing, it's another. We all know this! So why is it that when those problems arise, some of us lose it, letting our problems control us. Our attitudes change. Our actions are lead by emotions, which may mean that we just cussed out our bffs or yelled at our mothers, (God forbid!)
Sometimes problems are out of our control and sit in the hands of others that may or may not realize they are tampering with our happiness and peace. What can we do? Well, if we can't change it, move on. Find other ways to solve the problem. Get help if necessary. I know this is a difficult task, being one of those stubborn "I got this" women. Which is ironic, because I'm a strong believer in the fact that people that come into, and some may stay, in your life are the people God intends for us, as He intends us for them.

I can sit here and write about my issues that swirl around me as we "speak", but I will spare you, and myself for that matter, because as my fore-mentioned statement "it can always be worse." I'm chillin' with some mimosas, waiting for my chicken and mushroom frittata to be ready. My kitchen smells delectable, my heater is purring keeping me warm, and my children (my grown ass children) are within earshot, minus Sam who is at school working hard on another successful dean's list worthy semester. What more can I ask for?

Make the lemonade, dress it up with umbrellas and garnish, even if we have to spike it from time to time, but remember it can always be worst.